Comments on: Sometimes You Need To Hit Rock Bottom http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/ Bold Advice For Success In Business & Life Wed, 01 Sep 2010 10:44:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Regina http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-2/#comment-24643 Regina Mon, 07 Jun 2010 20:22:00 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-24643 I have hit rock bottom today. I don't know who I have been trying to fool but when I saw my husband brake down today because we have no work and can't find a job( we own our on business) due to the economy and now the oil spill here in the gulf ( we live near the beach in Alabama) we are going to have to close our company. I love my home but now we are looking at forclosure ,how sad to lose the things you have busted you butt far and at our age start all over. I don't know what to do.my heart and spirit is broken. I have hit rock bottom today. I don’t know who I have been trying to fool but when I saw my husband brake down today because we have no work and can’t find a job( we own our on business) due to the economy and now the oil spill here in the gulf ( we live near the beach in Alabama) we are going to have to close our company. I love my home but now we are looking at forclosure ,how sad to lose the things you have busted you butt far and at our age start all over. I don’t know what to do.my heart and spirit is broken.

]]> By: john smith http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-2/#comment-24628 john smith Wed, 02 Jun 2010 08:56:48 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-24628 besides ive just met one of the nicest women going, so if that isnt things looking up i dont know what is haha, time to destress kick this bullshits ass and move on to better things, cause im dam sure this isnt the way its going to be for the rest of my life. not a chance im only 30 and gaging to get going, all the people on here that carnt get out of bed on a morning due to depresion, ive had it, its not the nicest thing in the world, just think thers a life going on out ther and i want a bloody peice of it befor this life takes every piece of me, this moment that we are in now is only a fraction of our lives, relax have a think. If you want to be depressed for the next week do it, just really use that time to think long and hard, maybe have a long look out the window, watch life pass by for that week, it will soon sort itself out, besides me being 30, i look at it like this, this is only a glich in my life and if i can still get out ther and pull one of the finest women on the planet its bound to be looking up, hope you all get out of the holes that your in, just remember its only a glich, im out of here... besides ive just met one of the nicest women going, so if that isnt things looking up i dont know what is haha, time to destress kick this bullshits ass and move on to better things, cause im dam sure this isnt the way its going to be for the rest of my life. not a chance im only 30 and gaging to get going, all the people on here that carnt get out of bed on a morning due to depresion, ive had it, its not the nicest thing in the world, just think thers a life going on out ther and i want a bloody peice of it befor this life takes every piece of me, this moment that we are in now is only a fraction of our lives, relax have a think.
If you want to be depressed for the next week do it, just really use that time to think long and hard, maybe have a long look out the window, watch life pass by for that week, it will soon sort itself out, besides me being 30, i look at it like this, this is only a glich in my life and if i can still get out ther and pull one of the finest women on the planet its bound to be looking up, hope you all get out of the holes that your in, just remember its only a glich, im out of here…

]]> By: john smith http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-2/#comment-24627 john smith Wed, 02 Jun 2010 08:24:51 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-24627 hi love your post by the way, its just what i needed to read at this time in my life, not being funny but i must have seriously hit rock bottom cause when ive only got a few pound on my cupboard when you have rent and bills to pay, ther comes a time for reflection and looking back on it now, ive somehow got into a bit of a sticky mess, with my finances, and family life me and the misses ar no longer togeather after 10 years so....... ive worked in the stone buisness for over ten years, the last 2 years i decided to go for it myself, i dont think my timing could have been any better with the recesion looming, but for me thease things were never foreseen, it was out of my control, not to mension the fact that when i first started working for myself i was so inthusiastic about what i was getting into that nothing else mattered. The first year went slow in regards to getting clients to know who i was but progressed quite well, the money was fantastic, but as time went by as i got into the second year things started to slow down, i managed to get in touch with a well known company that put me forward for quite a lot of work, as it was only in my second year of working for myself id asked the company if i could have payments in installments, no problem they replied, a week before i was about to start the job i had a little car that for the time being was ideal for what i needed to do, cheep when i baught it and cheep to run, it also felt realy reliable, until the weekend befor i was meant to start the new job i had an accident in it the bloody thing was a write off i was only going around the roundabout when all wheels left the road and went straight into a lampost i was gutted, now what the hell do i do '' that job starts in a week and i have no car and no funds to buy a new one at this time, i did try to buy another cheep car but like i say it was cheep and id garenteed the thing would have cut out half way to london or something, it was useles, so i took it back because it just wasnt the way farward, so i thought right the banks should atleast give me a loan because ive been pretty good with them ,as well as me knowing that ive secured that new job for the new client which was a good earner for me, ther was no problem making that decision about the loan cause i didnt think it would be long befor id pay it off with the funds form the new job, anyways the job was going great and id ended up with a great car reliable aswel, i was doing a lovely job for them making sure the work was carried out to the best of my abilitie, the first stage payment came in, ''lovely this is great'' i thought im accually doing it ''for myself'' the second stage payment came in, all the time the reccesion is getting worse, everywher now im hereing tales about companys going bust, people not getting payed, i never for 1 second thought it would happen to me. so id finnished the job and was due to recieve a substantial amount of money that would instantly put me right, as time went by ther was no sign of the money coming in at all i kept ringing them they were saying yes we have records that your due a final payment and it shalll be with you shortly, '' nothing to worrie about'' they said,'' what a load of sh.t, '' they had me holding onto it like a right mug only to tell me on the payment date the company had gone bust, i was absolutly wounded, i could have gone down ther and banged him out, i was furious, this had never happened to me before it totaly knackered everything up, as you can imagin i had rent to pay, loans to pay, the phone to pay, i had to pay all this but had no funds, before you know it i was at a loose end with it all i found myself borrowing money of the parrents to help me get fuel to go down to do my next job that maybe was only 1 or 2 days a week at that, i couldnt afford to pay the money for a hotel so i had to stop in my car in the middle of winter and stuff like that, i vowed to myself that i would never sleep in my car again after that, so now one thing has lead to another i couldnt afford to do anything it had proper screwed me up, im still waiting to here off the administraters, so here i am in this hole that to be fair unless something drastic happens within the next day or two im afraid ill just have to keep trying, 1 bonus is that work has started to pick up now with the stones again and i have a job to go back to, but the problem is my car is off the road because i couldnt afford to keep it on, what has a man got to do? i mean the job im in at the minuite is pretty rediculous and it just isnt working the money is not good and its seems its just a visious circle, so here i am with a couple of pound on the cupboard to my name, rents due shortly, ive got a really well payed job waiting for me but no car with no funds to even get it on the road, now if that isnt a bummer i dont know what is, time to go to the bank and spill my guts, because to be fair i havnt even been in ther for a whille only god knows what state its in, not to mension the state my head has been in for months, i wont ever get myself in this mess again, today is going to be the first day of my life, i have nothing to loose, here goes!!! hi love your post by the way, its just what i needed to read at this time in my life, not being funny but i must have seriously hit rock bottom cause when ive only got a few pound on my cupboard when you have rent and bills to pay, ther comes a time for reflection and looking back on it now, ive somehow got into a bit of a sticky mess, with my finances, and family life me and the misses ar no longer togeather after 10 years so…….
ive worked in the stone buisness for over ten years, the last 2 years i decided to go for it myself, i dont think my timing could have been any better with the recesion looming, but for me thease things were never foreseen, it was out of my control, not to mension the fact that when i first started working for myself i was so inthusiastic about what i was getting into that nothing else mattered. The first year went slow in regards to getting clients to know who i was but progressed quite well, the money was fantastic, but as time went by as i got into the second year things started to slow down, i managed to get in touch with a well known company that put me forward for quite a lot of work, as it was only in my second year of working for myself id asked the company if i could have payments in installments, no problem they replied, a week before i was about to start the job i had a little car that for the time being was ideal for what i needed to do, cheep when i baught it and cheep to run, it also felt realy reliable, until the weekend befor i was meant to start the new job i had an accident in it the bloody thing was a write off i was only going around the roundabout when all wheels left the road and went straight into a lampost i was gutted, now what the hell do i do ” that job starts in a week and i have no car and no funds to buy a new one at this time, i did try to buy another cheep car but like i say it was cheep and id garenteed the thing would have cut out half way to london or something, it was useles, so i took it back because it just wasnt the way farward, so i thought right the banks should atleast give me a loan because ive been pretty good with them ,as well as me knowing that ive secured that new job for the new client which was a good earner for me, ther was no problem making that decision about the loan cause i didnt think it would be long befor id pay it off with the funds form the new job, anyways the job was going great and id ended up with a great car reliable aswel, i was doing a lovely job for them making sure the work was carried out to the best of my abilitie, the first stage payment came in, ”lovely this is great” i thought im accually doing it ”for myself” the second stage payment came in, all the time the reccesion is getting worse, everywher now im hereing tales about companys going bust, people not getting payed, i never for 1 second thought it would happen to me.
so id finnished the job and was due to recieve a substantial amount of money that would instantly put me right, as time went by ther was no sign of the money coming in at all i kept ringing them they were saying yes we have records that your due a final payment and it shalll be with you shortly, ” nothing to worrie about” they said,” what a load of sh.t, ” they had me holding onto it like a right mug only to tell me on the payment date the company had gone bust, i was absolutly wounded, i could have gone down ther and banged him out, i was furious, this had never happened to me before it totaly knackered everything up, as you can imagin i had rent to pay, loans to pay, the phone to pay, i had to pay all this but had no funds, before you know it i was at a loose end with it all i found myself borrowing money of the parrents to help me get fuel to go down to do my next job that maybe was only 1 or 2 days a week at that, i couldnt afford to pay the money for a hotel so i had to stop in my car in the middle of winter and stuff like that, i vowed to myself that i would never sleep in my car again after that, so now one thing has lead to another i couldnt afford to do anything it had proper screwed me up, im still waiting to here off the administraters, so here i am in this hole that to be fair unless something drastic happens within the next day or two im afraid ill just have to keep trying, 1 bonus is that work has started to pick up now with the stones again and i have a job to go back to, but the problem is my car is off the road because i couldnt afford to keep it on, what has a man got to do? i mean the job im in at the minuite is pretty rediculous and it just isnt working the money is not good and its seems its just a visious circle, so here i am with a couple of pound on the cupboard to my name, rents due shortly, ive got a really well payed job waiting for me but no car with no funds to even get it on the road, now if that isnt a bummer i dont know what is, time to go to the bank and spill my guts, because to be fair i havnt even been in ther for a whille only god knows what state its in, not to mension the state my head has been in for months, i wont ever get myself in this mess again, today is going to be the first day of my life, i have nothing to loose, here goes!!!

]]> By: I’m Back But I Forgot An Important Lesson : Catherine Lawson http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-1/#comment-24470 I’m Back But I Forgot An Important Lesson : Catherine Lawson Sat, 15 May 2010 02:42:29 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-24470 [...] particular comment was on “Sometimes You Need To Hit Rock Bottom“. And I almost didn’t read it because some of the comments on that post can be quite [...] [...] particular comment was on “Sometimes You Need To Hit Rock Bottom“. And I almost didn’t read it because some of the comments on that post can be quite [...]

]]> By: Matha http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-1/#comment-24099 Matha Fri, 23 Apr 2010 07:45:41 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-24099 I have read your article and appreciated it since that is exactly what Iam going through. I used all my finances in helping to bring up my siblings and then when I lost my mother and husband, something just changed my whole outlook towards life and I lost the will to live. I was just operating like a detached person. I was then retrenched and imagine we were paid but somehow, in my behaviour of wanting to continue assisting my dependants, I continued using the money yet I own no property. Now, suddenly, I have just discovered that I need to wake up and start living. I have wasted so much time, lost so much. I even lost property in a prime area through a friend who conned me into selling her the property at a throw away price. It hurts so bad when I remember. I have made so many mistakes in life through being complacent but now, I am ready to change and be someone else. I am willing to learn and get out of the comfort zone. I have generally never been a serious person and never taken things which are related to me seriously. I have realised that I have been attending to other people's issues more keenly but when it comes to my issues, I have been having a laid back disposition. Your article has really encouraged me that sometimes when one reaches rock bottom, that is the time they act. I have so many dreams in my mind and really procrastinate. I am ready to start again and will make a deliberate effort to change. Thank you. Matha I have read your article and appreciated it since that is exactly what Iam going through. I used all my finances in helping to bring up my siblings and then when I lost my mother and husband, something just changed my whole outlook towards life and I lost the will to live. I was just operating like a detached person. I was then retrenched and imagine we were paid but somehow, in my behaviour of wanting to continue assisting my dependants, I continued using the money yet I own no property. Now, suddenly, I have just discovered that I need to wake up and start living. I have wasted so much time, lost so much. I even lost property in a prime area through a friend who conned me into selling her the property at a throw away price. It hurts so bad when I remember. I have made so many mistakes in life through being complacent but now, I am ready to change and be someone else. I am willing to learn and get out of the comfort zone. I have generally never been a serious person and never taken things which are related to me seriously. I have realised that I have been attending to other people’s issues more keenly but when it comes to my issues, I have been having a laid back disposition.

Your article has really encouraged me that sometimes when one reaches rock bottom, that is the time they act. I have so many dreams in my mind and really procrastinate. I am ready to start again and will make a deliberate effort to change.

Thank you.

Matha

]]> By: vickie http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-1/#comment-24086 vickie Sat, 17 Apr 2010 18:03:49 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-24086 I am probaly one of the meanest people that people that know me have ever met I'm mean when I'm angry. And because of that it has cost me a promising career in music my family and my friends I hate living I feel life I have no self woth and if I could repate life over I wouldn't have allowed my anger to get me to where I am I wish I could have realized how bad I was making it for the people around me but I was always caught up in the way I felt that I didn't see it now I don't know what to do I belive in God but I don't feel like talkin to him is going to make matters better people always told me I would spend life alone if I didn't learn how to control my anger so now that I'm here sitting in this dark room I just wanted to try to help someone by telling the to cherish the people around u love them show them u love them before its too late because when u don't ur the only one who looses out ur the only one in a no win situation and before u get to a point like me when u feel that life isn't worth fighting for cuz u have lost the ones u love forever, stop and take a moment to think about what u have to loose I'm 24 years old and have made a lot of mistake but the biggest one is not realizing that I had people who loved me and now they r no longer here cuz they can't stand me and I'm not writing because I want pitty I'm hoping that this will reach some people out there with tempers or issuse with people so they can stop playin the victim and realize how good they have it before its too late I am probaly one of the meanest people that people that know me have ever met I’m mean when I’m angry. And because of that it has cost me a promising career in music my family and my friends I hate living I feel life I have no self woth and if I could repate life over I wouldn’t have allowed my anger to get me to where I am I wish I could have realized how bad I was making it for the people around me but I was always caught up in the way I felt that I didn’t see it now I don’t know what to do I belive in God but I don’t feel like talkin to him is going to make matters better people always told me I would spend life alone if I didn’t learn how to control my anger so now that I’m here sitting in this dark room I just wanted to try to help someone by telling the to cherish the people around u love them show them u love them before its too late because when u don’t ur the only one who looses out ur the only one in a no win situation and before u get to a point like me when u feel that life isn’t worth fighting for cuz u have lost the ones u love forever, stop and take a moment to think about what u have to loose I’m 24 years old and have made a lot of mistake but the biggest one is not realizing that I had people who loved me and now they r no longer here cuz they can’t stand me and I’m not writing because I want pitty I’m hoping that this will reach some people out there with tempers or issuse with people so they can stop playin the victim and realize how good they have it before its too late

]]> By: Gill http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-1/#comment-24055 Gill Mon, 05 Apr 2010 21:03:23 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-24055 I'm at rock bottom right now and determined that I'm going to get up and achieve what I really want now! New job, that longed for holiday, fulfill those promises I've made to my kids. I’m at rock bottom right now and determined that I’m going to get up and achieve what I really want now! New job, that longed for holiday, fulfill those promises I’ve made to my kids.

]]> By: 4 Blogging Styles that Nurture Community: Guest Post by Brad Shorr | Confident Writing http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-1/#comment-23990 4 Blogging Styles that Nurture Community: Guest Post by Brad Shorr | Confident Writing Mon, 08 Mar 2010 09:51:05 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-23990 [...] And then there’s Cath Lawson. Cath is another one of my faves, even though her writing style is totally opposite Robert’s. I would describe her as in-your-face: feisty, abrupt, brutally honest, sometimes confrontational, always provocative. [...] [...] And then there’s Cath Lawson. Cath is another one of my faves, even though her writing style is totally opposite Robert’s. I would describe her as in-your-face: feisty, abrupt, brutally honest, sometimes confrontational, always provocative. [...]

]]> By: AJ http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-1/#comment-23947 AJ Wed, 17 Feb 2010 04:21:47 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-23947 well i have messed up a lot in my life. i just have to say on here since i feel like i cant say it at home, that i dont like my life. i dont like my relationship im in, or my living situation. i suffer from PTSD. no one around me understands. I also have bad anxiety and panick attacks. so everyone just thinks im a crazy person and really i just want to be heard. in september 2009 my house burnt down and my daughter, boyfriend, and i lost everything. my already crappy relationship got worse. my dad died the same week of the fire. then my car that id had for three years was repossessed. i quit nursing school in december 2009. i am not trying to get back into school. i just want a good life for my daughter and i. i feel trapped. well i have messed up a lot in my life. i just have to say on here since i feel like i cant say it at home, that i dont like my life. i dont like my relationship im in, or my living situation. i suffer from PTSD. no one around me understands. I also have bad anxiety and panick attacks. so everyone just thinks im a crazy person and really i just want to be heard. in september 2009 my house burnt down and my daughter, boyfriend, and i lost everything. my already crappy relationship got worse. my dad died the same week of the fire. then my car that id had for three years was repossessed. i quit nursing school in december 2009. i am not trying to get back into school. i just want a good life for my daughter and i. i feel trapped.

]]> By: DT http://cathlawson.com/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/comment-page-1/#comment-23849 DT Wed, 13 Jan 2010 17:18:16 +0000 http://cathlawson.com/blog/2008/03/26/sometimes-you-need-to-hit-rock-bottom/#comment-23849 I've read many of the comments, but not all of them. Most of them are motivating. But, has anyone mentioned the fact that once you've hit rock bottom you no longer have the security nor the resources necessary to help you bounce back? How do you follow your dreams when you have nothing to drive them? I believe this is a very important point that many people neglected to mention. I’ve read many of the comments, but not all of them. Most of them are motivating.

But, has anyone mentioned the fact that once you’ve hit rock bottom you no longer have the security nor the resources necessary to help you bounce back? How do you follow your dreams when you have nothing to drive them?

I believe this is a very important point that many people neglected to mention.

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